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Here is the final extension of Tips for Parents Struggling with the Sexual Orientation of their LGBT Children. This information is designed to assist you in developing skills that will enable you to love, reconcile, and restore the relationship you once had with your LGBT child.

7. Join a Support Group

One of the best ways to stay encouraged is to surround yourself with people who can provide support because they are experiencing the same situation and can relate to your experiences. P-FLAG (Parents – Family of Lesbians and Gays) is an international nonprofit organization dedicated to supporting parents, family members, and LGBT who are struggling. The organization has been in existence for many years and has chapters in cities throughout the world. For information regarding services and chapter locations, go to their website: http://www.pflag.org.

If the religious organization where you attend offer counseling services that are specific to LGBT challenges, contact them for an appointment. Understand that you may need to commit to attend more than a couple of meetings in order to understand how the group could support you.

8. Love – Reconcile – Restore

Recognize that the purpose for the emotional work you are committing to do is to love, reconcile, and restore your relationship with your child. This means that you will need to resist the urge to change, condemn, slander, scream, or disown your child because their life doesn’t agree with your principles. Working through your feelings to accept the fact that your child has the right to live their life the way they wish without your judgment and criticism. You are to love them, not judge them. This doesn’t mean that you must agree with their life but it does mean that you should come to terms with yourself not being in charge of what they do or who they love. Remember that during conversations with your child, seek to understand their point of view without judgment. Ask open-ended questions for the purpose of gaining better understanding. Watch your tone of voice and body language and above all, let your child know that you love him or her and are willing to work through your differences.

Should you have a personal experience you’d like to share with everyone, comments on this blog are welcomed.